In today’s world, marriage has lost its weight.
What was once a sacred bond sealed with vows, faith, and a lifetime promise has become something fragile. People say “I do” today, and tomorrow they say “I’m done.” The sad reality is that divorce is becoming more common than commitment.
You don’t have to look far to see it.
Couples get married with excitement, beautiful ceremonies, trending hashtags, and perfect photos. But soon after the honeymoon ends, reality begins. Communication breaks down. Arguments grow. Intimacy fades. And instead of fighting for the marriage, people walk away.
Some marriages don’t even survive their first anniversary. Others fall apart silently two people living in the same house, but miles apart in heart. The home becomes cold. The laughter disappears. Children grow up in confusion, witnessing two strangers instead of two loving parents.
Many people rush into marriage without fully understanding what it demands. They prepare for the wedding, not the marriage. They expect happiness, not hard work. But love isn’t just about feelings it’s about daily choices. When challenges come, they feel betrayed by reality.
Society today promotes self-first thinking “If you’re not happy, leave.” “You deserve better.” While self-worth is important, marriage requires sacrifice, patience, and teamwork. People want instant results, but real love grows slowly through time, forgiveness, and endurance.
Social media adds even more pressure. People compare their relationship with the edited, filtered lives they see online. They see only the highlights of someone else’s marriage and start doubting their own. But no one posts the arguments, the silent treatments, or the tears. What we see online is not the full story.
After the wedding, couples are often left alone. No one checks in. When problems arise, they suffer in silence, ashamed to speak out. And because many families and churches avoid talking openly about real marital issues, couples don’t know where to turn for help.
Divorce affects more than just the couple. It affects children, who are forced to choose between parents. It affects families, who once celebrated the union but now feel divided. It affects society, as trust in love and marriage continues to shrink.
Many young people today no longer believe in marriage not because they don’t want to love, but because they’ve seen too much pain. They’ve watched too many relationships fall apart. They’ve seen people who were once in love now treat each other like enemies.
So what can be done?
We need to stop painting marriage as a fairy tale and start preparing people for the real work it takes to build a lasting relationship. We must encourage open communication and counseling because seeking help is not a weakness, it’s wisdom. Couples need safe spaces to talk, heal, and rebuild.
It’s also important to model healthy relationships. If elders, leaders, and families show what lasting love looks like with all its ups and downs young people will have something real to look up to.
And above all, marriage must be built on strong values like faith, respect, patience, and honesty. Marriage is not just a contract. It’s a covenant. When couples understand that, they protect their love from the storms that try to break it.
Divorce may be increasing, but love hasn’t disappeared. Commitment still exists. Real, lasting marriages are still possible but they don’t just happen. They are built. They are protected. They are fought for.
If society wants to protect the future of families, we must begin by respecting the foundation of marriage again not as a trend, but as a promise worth keeping.
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